If you’re having sleepless nights and days full of worry about one of your children about how to help them through difficulties with school, one thing I consistently find helps people make a start at turning the tide is to do this task.


Find a pocket of time when you can be uninterrupted.

Get a big piece of paper and something to write with, take a deep breath, and draw or write your situation down.

It doesn’t need to be neat.

It doesn’t need to make sense to anyone but you.

Nothing is too big or small to be on that piece of paper.

Put down everything you can think of that plays a part in your situation, the good, the bad and the ugly.

Just put it out of your head and onto the paper.

Avoid filtering yourself, making judgments of what is or isn’t useful.

Draw or write until there is no more popping up in your head.

Then think if there is anything else that is scared or unwilling to show itself and add that.

Put everything down.

There’s something special about doing this, the getting it down, the putting the thoughts somewhere, anywhere, just not circling round and round in your head.

Notice if you get tiny nuggets of ideas, or a big fat realisation coming to you in the next few days. By putting our situation down on paper can create the very space in our brains for us to be able to think and act differently.

Why not give it a try, what have you got to lose?

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